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Posted : 11/23/2009 4:26:40 PM

Ok so my boyfriend broke up with me randomly on thursday... I talk to his dad friday and his dad calls him... Saturday he asks me if i still want a ride home... I was like idc if you want... and then i ask him why we really broke up because he said that he needs to focas on his studys but i knew that was not it... well i get tired of yelling at him over facebook so i go down to his dorm and we just sit there screaming at each other... he was sating that i was pushing him and his dad apart and that his dad was on my side, and i was not getting another chance, i should go back to my ex who would have raped me if he had the chance and all this other bs that i did not hear because all i was thinking is that i had never been talked to like this and that if this is what is going to happen when he gets really pissed then i decerve better. so after he was silent for a whole 30 seconds then i told him i desever better than him and i walked away.... he called me all sorts of names... so then I have now found out that he is now dating one of my friends who i ranted at day in and out about him... can we say retard...and that he was cheating on me with a third girl... I am just sooooo pissed, confuzed, wanting to smack the crap out of someone... and jus grrrrrr!!!! I have no idea what to do.... oh and he is now going around and telling people i broke up with him... oh and another thing this guy was my first... to make it even worse... I so wish i had waited so yah this is the end of my rant thanks for reading...
Liz

Summer

Posted : 11/23/2009 5:19:17 PM

Well...my "first" was a nasty boy too. Seems like college men just don't have a clue anymore. I didn't date much in college but I met one my junior year or so. My roommate dressed me up, put on make up etc and low and behold I "caught" a man at the local bar. Turned out..

1) He lied about his age - 35 not 24
2) He drove 40 minutes to the college town just to pick up girls and get lucky..
3) He had a kid

Don't get me wrong, he was always sweet and nice but what he was doing was wrong. Being divorced does not give you a license to prey on young college girls even if they are over the age of 21.

There will be other men. Tune up your radar and think a little bit more next time.

tripleluckyprince

Posted : 11/23/2009 11:58:05 PM

first off *big hug*
wow that kind of sounds like my previous relationship...without the first part i still hold the v card ':D'

he sounds like a royal butthead and your right you dont deserve him especially if he cheated on you and is now dating your friend thats just wrong there is a girl code man you dont date your friends ex's unless they say its ok and they really mean it,
this is your chance to brush up on your man catchin skills lol (that was not original my friend said that to me when airforce guy decided he was done LOL) bein single is fun u dont have anyone to tell you what to do and you can flirt with anyone you want too
go work out some, you can lift weights which works muscles and releases endorphins!!! YAY ENDORPHINS!!!! oooooorrrrr you could just eat chocolate which does the same thing......funy how that works....
*hugs*

hunterseat

Posted : 11/24/2009 3:10:28 AM

Hmmm.... I'm trying not to think like a mom. I don't have girls but I've always told my boys to be the kind of guy the girl's DAD would trust. You should be friends first and foremost. With true friends you can get mad and yell or not speak and eventually you'll be okay. And you'll always be friends. Protect your body, value yourself and never compromise for anyone. Just because you made the mistake of being intimate with him doesn't mean you can't back off and regroup.

DashMyBoy!

Posted : 11/24/2009 3:27:49 AM

*tsk tsk tsk* Warning warning warning! Jerk alert! Jerk alert!

Ok, seriously though.... a good kick in his howdies will make you feel better. ** Looks over shoulder at the frowning mods** But,um, I guess that would be very wrong. Uh huh.

Look on the bright side. You have discovered he's a major buttwipe, so you won't waste any more time on him. You also found out a friend is NOT a friend. I mean, a real friend does NOT date a dude that dissed her g/f. Sounds like they deserve each other.

The best revenge is living well. In other words, LIVE your life and let him screw up his own. Got it? Go forth and have fun.

qh trail rider

Posted : 11/25/2009 1:55:41 PM

I am sorry that you have been going through all of this. I know that right now you are heart broken, but count your blessings that you found out about his true colors when you did. God forbid that you would have married this jerk and then found out he was a cheater and a liar. All things happen for a reason and hopefully you will someday find a special man who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. Right now enjoy being single, your freedom, and the college life. A lot of times hanging out with a group is more fun than being with one guy anyway.

AllieBaba

Posted : 11/25/2009 2:27:13 PM

Brush it off and count yourself lucky you got out of it.

Also take a close look at why you pursue men who are abusive towards you. Maybe you need to remove yourself from the dating scene for a while.

quarterhorse105

Posted : 11/28/2009 3:58:29 PM

Thank you all for your support... I am glad I found out how he was now... it is just really hard because he promased me the world and he even told me that he would have bought me a ring if he had the money... and i really did love him... and we have a lot of mutual friends so... and he was just so bitter to me... i had never been talked to like that ever... not even my mother talked to me like that when she was really mad at me... But right now I am looking for new friends... more horse related friends and I am going to stay out of dating for a while and just take time to find myself... and when I do start to date I am going to go turtle slow... because I dont want to be hurt again

danastark

Posted : 11/28/2009 4:24:11 PM

I agree with whoever said that your exes deserve each other. My ex-husband cheated on me with with a married woman and I always wondered how they could be sure they wouldn't cheat on each other??? Anyone who promises you a ring, etc. at 18 is desperate and probably saying the same thing to other girls just to get laid. Just ask my husband! He says most teenagers/young men want one thing and once they get it, they trash your reputation......... Anyways, better days are ahead! There are many fish in the sea. Took me 3 times to get it right (ok, maybe I'm a slow learner!) but couldn't be happier now. Found a guy who loves me, quirks, cellulite and all and even learned how to ride to spend more time with me. There are good men out there. This jerk you were with was just a boy with his brain between his legs........ YOU DO DESERVE THE BEST!! DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS THAN "Respectful, funny, nice and thinks the world of you!!!" You probably won't find that in college, guys don't really mature mentally around 28, it seems so you can have a lot of fun going out with your new horsie friends. You don't have to have a man to be happy ':)'

Hang in there, keep your head held high. Take the high road and don't trash talk him, let them think you dumped him 'cause he's a jerk and they'll figure that one out on their own anyways. Funny thing is, he'll do the same thing to your "friend" and she'll come crying to you for sympathy......... Sigh...... (((( HUGS))))

hunterseat

Posted : 11/29/2009 1:14:05 AM

*hunter dusts off danastark's Mom-of-the-Year award from last year*
dana's right up there with Claire Huckstable!

danastark

Posted : 12/5/2009 6:27:21 AM

You are too funny, HS! My youngest wouldn't agree with you today..... I'm the Queen of Mean......

Hope things are better, QH!! P.S. If he comes back begging for forgiveness, run, don't walk away from him!!!! If they cheat once, they'll do it again and you've already seen him at his worst, do you really want to go there again? NOT! A bag of dark Dove chocolate can make you feel MUCH better ':)'

samsara

Posted : 12/7/2009 9:32:48 PM

[quote=danastark]

You are too funny, HS! My youngest wouldn't agree with you today..... I'm the Queen of Mean......

Hope things are better, QH!! P.S. If he comes back begging for forgiveness, run, don't walk away from him!!!! If they cheat once, they'll do it again and you've already seen him at his worst, do you really want to go there again? NOT! A bag of dark Dove chocolate can make you feel MUCH better ':)'

I second the motion for chocolate. Though, I prefer mine in the form of Ben and Jerry's Phish Food... those pints got me through a lot of college heartbreaks.

One day my roommate came home and I was sitting on the couch hat, scarf, and mittens on (too poor to pay for much heat) eating my pint of ice cream she says, "one of those days huh?" and it was.

hunterseat

Posted : 12/8/2009 2:10:49 AM

I was sitting on the couch hat, scarf, and mittens on (too poor to pay for much heat) eating my pint of ice cream

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] I just polished off a pint of Yarnell's Hot Chocolate. They use chocolate spice and my mouth still feels warm!